New Delhi: Forty-four percent of married couples across India agree that the key to a long and happy marriage is to be fighting more than once a week, according to a new survey.
In Shaadi Aajkal, a survey conducted by leading matrimonial site Shaadi.com and research agency IMRB market believe these couples fight more than once a week helps to keep lines of communication open.
Anand Seth, who works as director of business development, told IANS that "fighting help couples come together, and often clear up misunderstandings. The fights are extremely necessary in a relationship because it makes the connection stronger.
"It also helps because each partner develops sensitivity and sensitivity of the other preferences in adversity."
Sushila Basu, marketing manager at a multinational company, said that the arguments for using the differences back to normal instead of "brewing and it festers in the minds of the couple."
"Tiffs help them understand what" check "spouse. It also helps not to take a spouse for granted," she added.
Couples in Delhi and Mumbai are the least likely to fight with 32 and 33 percent of respondents struggle against less than once a month.
Interestingly, fighting to get less with age, with only two percent of couples aged 41-45 years seem to be getting into an argument once a month, compared to 10 percent of couples in the age group 20-25 years. This is mainly because understanding increases with age and years spent together.
From the perspective of gender - women tend to enter into a discussion more often than men. About 12 percent of women say they have an argument every day, compared to eight percent of men.
Prakriti Poddar, clinical hypnotherapist and counselor with Mind Over image, does not feel that the arguments are good for married couples, but adds that people are trying to solve problems and about 80 percent of its customers come because they want their marriage to work.
"In 20 percent of cases, one partner feels the marriage is not working but wanted to take the road to see a marriage counselor just to show their partner the real problem. About 90 percent of the clients I see have problems with relationships and are with me to solve them, "Poddar, who sees about five clients a day, told IANS.
She feels that no one wants to put up with a worse marriage.
"People are becoming more independent and are hungry for love, communication, respect and love in a marriage," she said, adding that "in the last five years, he was 100 percent increase in the rate of divorce and the problems that lead to the separation are the emotional and physical violence -., lack of respect, love and communication "
She stressed that the financial and space rock weddings too and that "people want a useful and happy companionship with good sex and communication," said Poddar.
Poonam Darswal, a doctor at a hospital in New Delhi who were married in 2009, believes that "every fight between me and my husband pushes him a little especially when you do not come to a valid conclusion. We just put the control off to avoid injury and resentment later. "
However, it recognizes that fights sometimes help to "understand one another, but only when we listen to each other with an open heart. But there are times when our battles are lame and the dumb questions, and in this case, nothing works. "
She also says that "most fights occur from misunderstanding."
Asked to name the issues that can not be resolved, she said, "There are no questions that can not be resolved is the lack of will to solve that leads to the distance When you stop to take care of any solution, problems arise .. and the accumulation of unresolved separate you forever. "
Couples agree with fights and arguments in marriage, but what is intolerable is extra-marital or business. Sometimes in-laws become as marriage brokers.
"The fights are inevitable in the circumstances concerning the in-laws. Reconciliation is impossible in situations where extramarital sex or affairs are concerned," said Seth.
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